Bisexuality

So I was listening to the Savage Love podcast today and an interesting question came up.

A caller told Dan that he came out to his boyfriend as a bisexual after an 8-year relationship, and his boyfriend freaked out. Over the past two years (totaling a 10 year relationship), his boyfriend has basically totally pulled away from him, and not touched him or "done anything" with him since he came out.

My first reaction to this was astonishment. I see it as incredulous that a gay man who has been in a relationship with another man for 8 years would react so negatively to an admission of bisexuality. I understand (as Dan pointed out) that the caller had basically been lying to the boyfriend for those 8 years (though that my be speculation - we don't know for sure if he ever nailed down his sexuality as being 100% gay), but at the same time, I don't understand why it would matter.

The caller then said he had waited to tell him because he knew that, with gay guys, bisexuality tended to be a deal breaker.

WHAT?!

I've never heard of this before. It may just be because I have tended to end up with bi guys, but... REALLY? There's a big occurrence of gay guys who refuse to date and/or are disgusted by bisexual guys? When Dan responded, he didn't act nearly as surprised as I was, and... that stunned me. I couldn't wrap my head around it. Gay people are supposed to be more tolerant of non-"normal" lifestyles, right?

I don't understand this at all. Any insight from my few readers?

I fall so hard

Fall (or Autumn, if you prefer) is a really good season, and is probably tied for my favorite with Spring (not a fan of extremes, though if I had to choose between Winter and Summer, I'd probably choose summer, just because I'm more accustomed to it, having grown up in Lakeside, CA). Fall out here in Colorado is absolutely beautiful. I took a couple of pictures today, that I'd love to share with you all. It's only the tip of the iceberg when it comes to how beautiful it gets out here.

But first! I ordered some novelty ice cube trays on Amazon.com, and got them in the mail today. Thought you'd like to see what one of them comes out like:

Note: Laffy Taffy box (I love candy), knitting needles (I'm trying to learn)

Anyway, on with the fall pictures:

I'm Only Living Out A Lie!

"I'm the monster.
I'm the villain.
What perfection.
What precision!
Keen incisions, I deliver.
Unscathed organs, I deliver.
Repossession, I deliver.
I'm the Repo! Legal assassin!"

I first heard about Repo! The Genetic Opera thanks to The Moving Picture. I saw the trailer and fell in love immediately.

"In the year 2056 - the not so distant future - an epidemic of organ failures devastates the planet. Out of the tragedy, a savior emerges: GeneCo, a biotech company that offers organ transplants, for a price. Those who miss their payments are scheduled for repossession and hunted by villainous Repo Men. In a world where surgery addicts are hooked on painkilling drugs and murder is sanctioned by law, a sheltered young girl searches for the cure to her own rare disease as well as information about her family's mysterious history. After being sucked into the haunting world of GeneCo, she is unable to turn back, as all of her questions will be answered at the wildly anticipated spectacular event: The Genetic Opera." (from IMDB.com)

It's starring Anthony Stewart Head and I have been eagerly awaiting it's release, set to go see it on November 7th. Until I checked it's Wikipedia page.

"Originally planned for an April 25, 2008 release date, it has since been reported that it will open with a limited release in 4 cities (Los Angeles, San Francisco, New York City, and Las Vegas) on November 7, 2008 with a DVD release to follow in January 2009."

This means that I will never get to see Repo! The Genetic Opera in theaters. This angers me quite a bit.


Here is the trailer, for your viewing pleasure:

Come What May

Christian: The courtesan and sitar man are pulled apart by an evil plan...
Satine:but in the end she hears his song...
Christian: and their love is just too strong.
The Duke:It's a little bit funny, this feeling inside.

Moulin Rouge! is a story of a writer - Christian (played by Ewan McGregor) - who moves to Monmartre, France, to pursue a career in writing. He is enamored with the Bohemian ideals of freedom, beauty, and, above all else, love.

While trying to write, an "unconscious Argentinian" falls through the roof of Christian's room. In the room above, they are rehearsing for a play called "Spectacular, Spectacular," something they hope to be the epitome of the Bohemian culture. The writer, Audrey, is having some trouble coming up with the story, and so (after a minor altercation) a midget named Tolouse (John Leguizamo) and the other Bohemians recruit Christian to be their writer.

To pitch the new story for "Spectacular, Spectacular," the Bohemians take Christian to the Moulin Rouge, where he is to meet Satine, The Sparkling Diamond (Nicole Kidman). Unfortunately, on that same night, Harold Zidler (Jim Broadbent), the owner of the Moulin Rouge, has arranged for Satine to meet The Duke, a potential investor for "Spectacular, Spectacular."

A mix-up occurs and Satine mistakes Christian for the Duke, and, after Christian "reads" her some of his poetry, she falls in love with him (and, naturally, he with her). From then on, "Spectacular, Spectacular" becomes a mirror to the trials and tribulations Satine and Christian go through while trying to hide their relationship from The Duke (who more-or-less owns Satine).

I first saw Moulin Rouge! while I was in middle school. I can't remember what made me watch it, but I do know that I loved it from the moment I saw it. The movie actually made me fall in love with Ewan McGregor as an actor, and really made me respect Nicole Kidman (despite the fact that my sister hates her in this movie). I also always really felt connected to the movie, because I could easily see myself in Christian's position.

If you haven't seen the movie yet, please do. It's worth the watch.

Conspiracy of Cartographers

Rosencrantz: I don't believe in it anyway.
Guildenstern: What?
Rosencrantz: England.
Guildenstern: Just a conspiracy of cartographers, then?

The name of this blog came from a very good play/movie called Rosencrantz and Guildenstern are Dead by Tom Stoppard. The play/movie centers around Rosencrantz and Guildenstern (played in the movie by Gary Oldman and Tim Roth respectively), two background characters from Shakespeare's Hamlet. There are many scenes in the play/movie lifted directly from Hamlet, but the majority of the play focuses on what R&G were doing when they weren't in Shakespeare's masterpiece. It's a fantastic story, and is very funny, and I recommend it to anyone who enjoys that type of thing.

Below is my favorite soliloquy from the play/movie. Hope you enjoy it.

Rosencrantz: Whatever became of the moment when one first knew about death? There must have been one. A moment. In childhood. When it first occured to you that you don't go on forever. Must have been shattering. Stamped into one's memory. And yet, I can't remember it. It never occured to me at all. We must be born with an intuition of mortality. Before we know the word for it. Before we know that there are words. Out we come, bloodied and squawling, with the knowledge that for all the points of the compass, theres only one direction. And time is its only measure.

The Alpha...

So starts The Em Blog. The online repository of thoughts and rambling is a one Mr. Matthew Espinoza. I hope you're ready for it. It will (hopefully) be one wild ride. No Mr. Toads allowed.